Many of the tips and tricks that help us to get by in everyday life also come into play in our relationships.
That’s also true of proactiveness.
After all, relationships are another facet of our lives.
So if you are good at planning what you’ll wear to work the day before or are someone who can accurately guess how a certain amount of seasoning will taste in your food, you might have an encouraging dose of protectiveness in you.
But what exactly is protectiveness, why do we need it in our relationships, and how can we inject it into them? This article will answer those questions.
What is Protectiveness
Ms in Relationships?
It’s not as if there’s a definition of protectiveness that is customized to relationships.
We will just take the usual definition of the term that we are used to and apply it in the context of relationships.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines proactive as acting in anticipation of future problems, needs, or changes.
Evidently, protectiveness is the quality of someone who is proactive, or does something about future situations before they occur rather than always waiting for them to happen.
That means, a person who is proactive in his relationships thinks about what could happen next and how he can be in control of it. He takes charge.
For that to happen, anyone in a relationship needs to act based on facts and reason, rather than on emotion and the fears they might encounter.
You can now see that it takes quite a lot of effort to be proactive in a relationship.
It involves thinking about the other person, understanding their needs, feelings, and worries, and taking the initiative wherever possible.
Why Being Proactive Matters in Relationships.
Being proactive matters a lot, whether you are just starting a relationship or are well into it.
If you are in a relationship, think about how it started—the opening words, gestures, situations, etc.
Maybe it all started with a simple, cheerful greeting or an offer to assist with carrying something heavy.
Well, the fact that the relationship clicked is a sign that you didn’t just let that time slide by without doing something.
Besides, you also overcame your fears—of rejection, sounding awkward, being laughed at, and so on.
And now, the relationship continues. Every time you call your partner to say, “hi honey, I miss you,” or you make dinner before your partner arrives home from work, you send a clear signal that this person is important to you.
What’s the point? If one is not proactive, they could miss out on opportunities to start and enjoy great relationships.
The other noteworthy point is that not being proactive can also make the relationship crumble.
Failing to do what sends a clear message of love and attachment can turn romantic partners into mere roommates who barely cope with each other.
In Conclusion…
Relationships don’t come easy. They entail a lot of work. They also crash easily.
But failure in relationships rarely comes abruptly. Most times, it knocks first. In the space between when failure is knocking and when the relationship actually crashes, there is a lot a couple can do to be proactive and continue sailing steadily and happily.
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